I need to calm down

When my dad visits, he wants to start our “to-do” list immediately.

He is like the energizer bunny.

Immediately he wants to:

- work on our compliance checklist,

- go to home depot, and

- install and fix something in the house.

And he is 80 years old.

He is always working.

I know I get this personality trait, this energy, from my dad, who l love!

But sometimes, I have too much energy, just like my dad.

My energy can rub people the wrong way.

I get excited, but others may not be as excited as I am.

Sometimes I even, find it annoying when my dad wants to do something and

I'm not in the mood.

Sometimes I just want to hang out with Peggy, my dad’s partner and talk.

There are always gems in analyzing how I feel when my dad has too much energy...

I learned it might bother others when they aren't as excited as I am.

I need to calm down.

While it was tough for me to learn this about myself recently,

it is important to be more self-aware.

What should I do when I get overly excited?

Remember Taylor Swift,

“You Need to Calm Down.”

In the book Thinking Fast and Slow, a genius book that I listened to,

Daniel Kahneman identifies two parts of our brain:

- the fast-thinking System 1 pressuring you to get things done; and

- the thoughtful, deep-thinking System 2.

System 2 knows you are a genius.

System 1 is an impatient, zero-attention-span toddler on cocaine.

(just like my dad wanting us to immediately work on the agenda the second he steps foot in my house and just like me, who wants to get things done with potential new clients)

A huge thank you to Ann Handley's recent blog on this topic.

Then a dear friend Shelly said this to me….

I think your energy goes up when you are nervous.

Oh my gosh, she is right.

I need to have more confidence in who I am.

Need to go to my comfort zone when I get nervous.

Writing out these important lessons helps me be a better advisor, friend, and mother.

Peter Drucker, “Success comes to those who know themselves - their strengths, their values, and how they best perform" Successful brands know who they are and what they stand for. They befriend their customers and their employees. Instead of trying to be better than the others, they work to be the very best at being themselves.

Talking out my issues with great friends and advisors and telling me something uncomfortable is an eye-opener and amazing.

"Women have always been a deeply underestimated economic force."

— Blair Kohan, a partner and talent agent at UTA, tells WSJ about the economic multiplier effect from women-led films, concerts this summer (like Taylor Swift) and women-owned businesses !!

Reach out if you want to talk about uncomfortable topics like planning and investing.

I'm here.

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